Alright, I guess today is just as good as any to vent about my baby mama drama. I don't have any babies. And I'm not a mama. My boyfriend, however, has two amazing little boys(ages 4 & 5) with a woman who is... well, not so amazing. In the beginning everything was all rainbows and sunshine. We all got along perfectly. Of course little things along the way really irked me.
--Like the time the oldest(3 at the time) was over, and he pulled off his sock... and says "LOOK!" His toes were painted a pretty hot pink! So I investigated. His brother's were as well.
--Or the time the oldest came over with his hand all bandaged up, because he was playing with a razor. Um, who leaves a razor out where a toddler can reach?!
--How about the time we were at Wal-mart with the kids, and we run into little miss baby mama's 2nd baby papa, and my boyfriend's kids go running up to him shouting, "Daddy! Daddy!" That's right. This bitch had my boyfriend's sons calling another man Daddy. Mind you, this man has been arrested several times. For stealing. And arson. Yup, a felon.
--So many times they've left wearing clothes that we bought them... and they were never returned. My hard earned money... spent for the kids to wear the clothes just once or twice while with us...
--She dresses them like little dirtbags. I hate to say it, but it's true. God knows she has enough money to buy them decent clothes. But she'd rather spend the child support and the money she makes off the state on herself.
--She never drops them off or picks them up on time. She only wants us to have them when it's convenient for her. When she's moving for the 8th time in 3 years. Or when her mother or sisters can't take them.
So, in case you can't tell. I've had reason after reason not to like her. It finally all blew up about a month or so ago. You see, in 5 years, my boyfriend has never claimed either child on his taxes. Hence, having to pay into taxes year after year. She had had her 3rd child by a 2nd father and has a 4th child on the way with father #3. All in less than 5 years. She told my boyfriend, we'll just call him LR for now, that he could claim one of the children on taxes so maybe he could actually get a return instead of paying this time. As he should! So, all week long she kept putting off coming over to sign the correct papers... End of the week comes around, and she's posting pictures of her brand new vehicle online! She had gone behind LR's back, and claimed both of his children so she could get more money back. It wouldn't be such a big deal, but we were really counting on that money. We had been making two mortgage payments, two electric bills, two water bills for a months(which is a long story in itself). Then out of nowhere in November, we both lost our jobs. Then we were suddenly behind on everything. We both found new jobs within a couple weeks, but we both also took major pay-cuts. That tax money was going to get us out of the hole we were in. We weren't going to spend it on a new vehicle. We were going to get out of our hole! But no, selfish baby mama "needed" a new vehicle. Which was obviously more important... So here we are, still buried. While she's shacked up with the 3rd father of her 4th child. Living off the state, living off my boyfriend's child support.
We are finally going to court over everything. Trying to make everything even. Everything will finally be on paper and not just according to what SHE wants. We would have tried for full custody, but everyone we've talked to tells us it would get too messy, especially with the kids being so young. Also, it doesn't help that the fathers in this state most always get screwed. I understand there are tons of deadbeats out there, but God knows that LR is NOT one of those men! The thing is, he's always been afraid to try anything, because she's always held those boys over his head. He figured a little was better than nothing at all. I think he's finally realizing that he does have a say in things. And hopefully it all works out for the best!
